Why does it seem some people want you NOT to do well?

In my abundance practice I have run across this occasionally. Where it seems like some people dislike others that are doing well. This can sometimes show up in the media. An anti success bias or something like that. If your doing well, especially financially, something is wrong with you or you’re bad for accumulating wealth or because you are wealthy you took advantage of someone somehow…..If you’re wealthy you’re guilty of something!

I think there is a lot tied up into this kinda of thinking whether its jealousy, judgement, guilt, someone’s own lack, personal, religious and societal beliefs, etc. Certainly they are many wealthy people that, trying find something less negative to say, have not been the best role models of wealth! Of course, often when people have negative views about wealth they often “see” only the negative side of wealth. A fancy car cuts them off on the highway, a financial scandal on the news, a wealth boss that treats them badly, etc. Its always interesting in my practice to hear individuals who want to attract more wealth in their lives, but dislike “wealth” in many ways. In my opinion, attracting more wealth with these conflicting beliefs and desires is challenging at best.

The first thing I often have people do with this thinking, is just start looking for the “good” in wealth. A person makes a gift to their school that enables computers to be purchased, have an appreciation for something specific that wealth can buy whether for yourself or others, a business owner or investor that created a product you like or use. This may seem small, but if your wanting to attract more wealth I feel you must believe that wealth is actually good or your beliefs, thoughts and actions will be out of alignment. Hard to change anything when your out of alignment as its kinda like the concept that a negative (thought about wealth) cancels out a positive one. I like my clients to create and build up their positive thoughts so they create momentum and reprogram old ways of thinking. Many say “you are what you eat”, I belief we are and create what we think!

 

How’s your “thought” bank account around money?

I hear the use of affirmations recommended a lot these days, that’s its important to think positive to make changes.  A good start, however, if we want more money in our life, for example, positive thinking alone usually doesn’t have enough power to create a change. The reason we haven’t attracted the money we desire in the past is usually a old belief that is blocking monetary abundance from flowing to us. We can consciously or more often unconsciously create our own “wall” that blocks money from coming. Of course, helping people become aware of their walls and helping with the tools to tear it down is what I love to do. Continue reading “How’s your “thought” bank account around money?”

Feel better by shifting your focus from problems to solutions

Focus on solutions instead of problems - Abundance Guy

“The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created them.”

 

Read this quote somewhere and reminded me that when we are in our problems we are often focused so much on them, that our thinking becomes self fulfilling……Focus on problem, the problem remains, gets bigger or more problems surface…..When we are stuck in/on the “problem”, we are in the “energy” or thinking of that problem. We think over and over about the problem.  Play it over in our mind, again and again, I believe staying in the “problem energy”.

Let’s say we have a problem with a person that “created” a problem for you. What someone said or did. Staying in what was said or done, will not change anything of course. What was said or done is over and in the past. Talking consistently about it will only keep you in the situation of the past. That situation has an energy to it, like a vibration, and I believe affects not only your thinking, but your body and its health and vitality. Think of the difference you feel and your energy you have when you have a pleasant conversation versus an argument. One you feel fresh and light and the other drained, sometimes physically AND emotionally.

I Kinda like to think that each old thought of this “problem” as you are bring it (the thought of the problem) into the present like an anchor. Having to bring the thoughts (the anchor) of the past forward into the present. If we had no judgement on the issue, we would just move on, right? But, sometimes we instead carry the burdens of the past forward or we choose to be right versus happy and free. We love to blame things on others, it’s easy, their not there to speak the other side, so we talk about how THEY have affected our lives. It’s their fault. Of course, this gives our power away as now the problem can only get fixed if someones else does something. Good Luck on finding long term happiness when others actions determine your happiness!  I get caught up on that one personally sometimes. Also, we can be often be just unconsciously stuck in negatively. I occasionally see people that seem to like stress and negativity over peacefulness, almost like an addiction, without being aware of it.

In situations like I’m describing are conscious, we know where the “problem” came from, however, there are also unconscious thoughts and beliefs that we have built up over the years that we are repeating. It’s like we are in a circle or whirlpool that can be difficult to get out of without a new way of looking or thinking about the problem. Sometimes these “circles” can last for a long time, a lifetime, dragging the negative energy of the past into your present moment. In my breath work, I see this all the time. Energy that is stuck from old issues, literally stored in the body, even though the “mind” thought it has cleared the problem. The breath is just one tool that can help move this.

Another simple one, is to focus on solutions. Forget the past (easier said than done with our egos), and just focus on what you need to do NOW………..I am not saying to suppress or not feel emotions. Expressing emotions are healthy, getting stuck in those, in my opinion, is not. My view is, let your emotions move and complete and move on. I believe that can start by just the focusing and thinking about the solution over and over. Solution, solution, solution……Just that shift in awareness alone is so powerful. Maybe it will take some small steps to get started towards an eventual solution. I believe ANY small step can get progress flowing in the right direction.

I have a friend that had some health issues in the past and I always admired how she refused to see herself as “sick”. She focused on the solutions to her “issues” even when it was and sometimes is challenging for her when solutions were foggy. Among other things, she is just repeating to herself, “I am healthy”, over and over, again and again. She continues to improve to this day even though doctors do not really know what’s “wrong” with her. Our thoughts and actions are so powerful!

Like anything else its a practice and my clients and myself find we just feel better when we focus on the solution.

 

 

 

Shifting your perception to create change

Abundance guy - changing your perception

It seems that most people look for the negatives in life or focus or what’s missing. I believe this will keep you stuck or in a “negative” cycle. I believe by shifting to a  focus on the  “positives” you have and being grateful for what you currently have breaks this “negative” cycle and starts creating more abundance. As you are creating more of what you want it is important to keep your thoughts, feelings and actions aligned towards what you want. This can be easier said than done. However, with awareness of what you are thinking, feeling and doing, aligning your thoughts, feeling and actions towards what you want becomes a practice and easier and easier with time.

I can say this is true for myself. I live half the year in Breckenridge, Colorado. Breckenridge is a small town with only a couple of thousand people. Meeting people with my similar life style and beliefs, living here on a part time basis, in the past, has been challenging at times for me. I can sometimes get caught up in negative thinking, “there is no one here like me”, “Breckenridge is too small”, “I’m lonely here”, “I can’t meet new friends”, etc. This can last for a few days sometimes and then I catch myself and apply my own practices. I first can turn around my negative thinking into positive just by saying things like, “it’s easy to meet new friends” or “I’m always in touch (connected) to people”. This can get you going in the right direction. Apply that “fake it until you make it” philosophy if you have a hard time believing your positive statements at first. To me, a belief is just a thought you keep on thinking, so if you have a negative belief you want to change, why not choose to keep on thinking a good one a create a new “better” belief!

Another practice is that I can acknowledge the wonderful friends I already have (even if you only have just one or two, the evidence of one means that others are possible), how they add value to my life, how they are similar to me, etc. This acknowledgement is very important and not meant to be just a one time thought. My belief, is what you focus on expands. So, if I have a practice of daily gratitude of the friends and their wonderful qualities I have NOW, I know that focusing on what I have will grow and my “job” is to let go of the outcome and keep the practice alive. Practicing this, in my experience, I have sometimes had new friends come into my life and sometimes my change has been deepening the friendship I already have with current friends, both of which are great.

Both of these practices work in other parts of life as well. Have a “problem” child? Focus on the aspects of your child you like and watch them grow. Your husband doesn’t compliment you the way you like? Try when you get a compliment, affirming that you really like hearing from him when he likes something and thank him for noticing it. This takes practice, I believe, daily or as frequently you can to change YOUR thinking. Be gentle with yourself, this doesn’t have to be so hard. Make it a game. Start with small steps.

 

 

 

You have the power to create

This is a short quote from some of my authors, Ester and Jerry Hicks. They are masters in reminding us that we can create what we want in life through a mix of aligning our thoughts, words and actions towards a desire or goal. This is a lot easier said then done some times if you really pay attention to all your various thoughts, words (what you say) and actions on a subject. We often can contradict ourselves, which I feel makes what we want keep from coming.

We say positive things about a goal or desire, but we think or act in a opposite way. Like the “thought bank account” I describe in an earlier blog, we want to build a “bank account” of pokie online positive thoughts, feelings, speech and actions towards our desires. We can actually practice, seeing, feeling, tasting our desires coming into fruition before they come. I believe this alignment is the key – Fill our positive ” thought bank account” and our desires will come!

“There are no happier people on this planet than those who decide that they want something, define what they want, get hold of the feeling of it even before it”s manifestation and then joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold. That”s the feeling of your hands in the clay.”

— Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in San Francisco, CA on Saturday, August 18th, 2001 # 186