Heading out to relieve stress

Adundance guy - dealing with stress through exercise

Playing out in nature has been apart of my life since I was a child. I was fortunate as a child to have woods out my back yard to roam and play in. From feeling my hands in the dirt to playing make believe, nature was grounding, expansive and full of freedom for me. Many years later, it still is that way now. When my mind get busy, I like to go for a walk or a bike ride outside to clear my head and get some clarity. At times, it just relieves some stress or allows for a bit more clarity on how I am feeling and what i am thinking?

Also, exercising outside is great as there are less distractions. Try leaving the Ipod/i phone at home if you heading out for a walk or jog. Try notice any differences?  Sure is nice “disconnecting” from everyone else sometimes in this “connected” world and just being with me. For me, I can sometimes get too “connected”  with other people and tasks that need done and and I begin to loose my connection to the more important things. Nature is one of my re-connecting zones.

I am fortunate where I live, nature is on my doorstep, so its harder to make excuses to NOT go outside. When I have lived in cities, it can take a bit more effort. Though, sometimes I even will “make” myself take a step outside and just take a few breaths when life is so busy or I’m feeling low in energy.  Just a few breaths outside will release some stress.   Sometimes a few breaths will turn into walking around the block and more stress reduction or a reminder how awesome and beautiful nature is.   A tree, a flower, the sky, the smells, colors, ect. Its all there whether in the city or country.

So take your time to appreciate nature through my eyes, I decided to take you out with me on one of my latest bike rides……just sit back watch and notice how your body reacts or how your breathing pattern changes by just watching this video…..feel better? imagine this was you……your chance……just one thing – go for it!

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Fall colors in Breckenridge – video

Abundance guy aspen fall colors breckenridge

I took this video on my way back home from lunch nearly a month ago. I’m in the heat of Cabo now, so the mountains feel pretty far away right now. However, I really love watching this as it was like a mediation as I was filming it.  Watching the video and seeing the bright Aspens of that fall day and listening to the music is like a short 3 1/2 minute meditation now. A simple mental time out.

The various curves in the road, like thoughts coming and going. We can’t control the curves in the road or our thoughts, though we can learn to control how we react to them. In meditation, the practice of coming back to the present moment after a thought is a normal and some say necessary part of meditation. Of course, a peaceful drive in the country is not always possible, however, use my video for that peaceful drive if you need one. Take a couple of deep breaths and grab the wheel.

 

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Abundance guy videos - Aspen trees in fall

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You have the power to create

This is a short quote from some of my authors, Ester and Jerry Hicks. They are masters in reminding us that we can create what we want in life through a mix of aligning our thoughts, words and actions towards a desire or goal. This is a lot easier said then done some times if you really pay attention to all your various thoughts, words (what you say) and actions on a subject. We often can contradict ourselves, which I feel makes what we want keep from coming.

We say positive things about a goal or desire, but we think or act in a opposite way. Like the “thought bank account” I describe in an earlier blog, we want to build a “bank account” of pokie online positive thoughts, feelings, speech and actions towards our desires. We can actually practice, seeing, feeling, tasting our desires coming into fruition before they come. I believe this alignment is the key – Fill our positive ” thought bank account” and our desires will come!

“There are no happier people on this planet than those who decide that they want something, define what they want, get hold of the feeling of it even before it”s manifestation and then joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold. That”s the feeling of your hands in the clay.”

— Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in San Francisco, CA on Saturday, August 18th, 2001 # 186

Is mountain biking like life?

A friend of mine came out for a visit last week.  We both enjoyed the “guy time” that two long time friends have together. We have a lot of history together, which started all the way back in nursery school! He has remained one of my closest friends over the years despite 1,000 miles in between us. We work in the same industry so we talk a lot, however we also just make the effort to spend face-to-face time together and be there for each other during the “ups” and “downs” of life.  With busy lives it can be hard to create time together, but so worth the “effort”. We spent a lot of time mountain biking while he was here and the video below is a fast snapshot of our biking time together.

I sometimes think about Mountain biking and it’s similarities to the ups and downs of life. Okay, I know, it maybe a stretch. But give me a little leeway. Biking has the challenge of the climbs, lot’s of effort, sweat and exertion, the time when we literally break down old muscles to build new, stronger ones.  Then the trail inevitably must turn downhill and the often effortless coasting, joy (or relief, after the challenge) and exhilaration. Like in life, our challenges make us stronger and certainly it’s easy to appreciate those times when we take a break from “growing” and life is like a sunny day.

On one ride we took, the uphill was steep enough that we got off and pushed our bikes up. We probably could have pedaled through some of what we walked, but we felt the extra exertion would have drained to much energy for the trail ahead. We dropped our egos and walked and talked.  A good life lesson……….when we might be expending too much energy and draining ourselves too much for the moment to “get off” and catch our breaths, slow things down a bit or build our energy up.  And know that everything that is meant to get done will and the “trail” or life will still be there.

Ross Bishop, one of my favorite authors, talking about “Holding center”

Okay, this is a bit heavy, but there is some good, core stuff to think about in his article.

 

HOLDING CENTER
by Ross Bishop

So you have trouble staying centered. In touchy situations you loose your calm. You get scared, feel anxious and become defensive. You sometimes do and say things you later regret.

Welcome to the world of your wounded inner child. You may think you control your life, but when it comes to emotionally charged situations, that’s her territory, and she rules it completely! The fear you feel is her trying to separate herself from a situation she deems to be threatening.

Your view of the situation really does not matter. She has gone back to a time in childhood when she felt helpless and powerless. At that time she created beliefs, especially about herself,  “we can be hurt,” “angry people are dangerous,” etc., that she carries into the present.  And, as long as she holds those beliefs, she is going to act on them.

The thing to remember is that she has all your power! In one moment she can cause you to react violently, lash out and fly into a rage, or, she can become passive, be dishonest, even con or manipulate in order to “manage” the situation. She’s had a great deal of practice, so she’s probably very good at it! She is not “bad” for doing this, she is simply a scared child trying to survive in a dangerous world.

Something else that she strongly dislikes is that adults rarely put the real issues on the table, so she is constantly forced to deal with shadows. This adds to her anxiety and replays the painfully manipulative adult behavior she had to deal with as a child. One thing about kids, until they become conditioned by us, they say what’s on their minds.

It is also important to remember that you do not come into these situations neutral. Your cup is likely already very full. Whether it is tension in your relationship, work related stress, problems with the kids, issues with your parents, making ends meet, or all the above, you come to the table with a hefty emotional burden. You may feel unsure of yourself, abused, like you don’t fit in or you may be angry at the world, so when a stressful situation arises, your options are already limited.

OK, so a situation happens. What can you do? I am going to give you two solutions, one  short term to deal with the immediate situation, the second, longer term to help resolve your issue. (Note: if the confrontation has become physical, these suggestions will not always apply).

IN THE MOMENT

Dealing with the moment has three basic requirements: Staying Present, Being Grounded and Getting The Focus Off Yourself.

STAYING PRESENT
The greatest barrier to remaining centered is that you are not in the present. Your wounded inner one is reacting to situations that went badly in the past, therefore she is likely to be defensive and feel victimized.

Although you are not powerless, she probably does not know that. She may also fear that you will not use your power to protect her. Saying to yourself:

“This is not the past, and I am not a victim,”

can help a great deal. The other person may be trying to victimize you, and although that did happen when you were a child and powerless, it cannot happen today unless you allow it.

STAYING GROUNDED
Breathe into your feet. This helps ground you and opens up your breathing, which is essential in dealing with stressful situations. This may seem inconsequential, but it is vital!

FOCUS ON THEM
The situation is charged and you are probably anxious, but try to get a sense of what is going on for them. People are often just reacting from fear and they rarely want to address it. No resolution can occur without including them, and anything you can learn about what is really going on will help you.

The operating premise here is that except for a few crackpots, few people seek out conflict. They do want to talk, and they would love a constructive way out, so long as it is safe. Generally we are just too afraid to be that vulnerable. We all have a need to feel understood. Recognizing this can help you constructively respond. Remember also, that apart from the specifics, what every situation needs is more love, because at the core of every “situation” is a lack of love.

THE LONG TERM SOLUTION

The reason you got hooked by the situation is that you feel vulnerable. Actually it is your wounded inner one who is afraid. Otherwise, you would simply engage in a problem solving conversation. But she is afraid and also not convinced that you will be there for her. Recognize that her reaction comes out of her history. You probably don’t like what is happening, but that is only a trigger to bring up old unhealed wounds that are ready to be addressed.

So, when you are away from the situation, at a time of quiet, go inside and find her. You may have to do some fence mending, by the way, because she may not be happy that you have not been there for her in the past.

When you have a good connection with her, get her to show you or tell you about the painful childhood events that the present situation is irritating. Those old painful events formed the beliefs that are driving your present reaction. It doesn’t matter that you may already know where it all came from, hear it from her anyway.

I can guarantee you something about her beliefs: She did nothing to create or be responsible for what happened. She was just a child! These were your parents issues, not hers. They created the difficulty, she did not. But she will have taken at least partial responsibility for what happened. The situation was toxic, she was not, but she will have come to see herself as defective, unlovable, etc., and that is why you are having trouble today.

Show her the truth. Take her back into the original situation and show her what was really going on. Use what you have learned about your parents and the family situation to show her the truth. This may be difficult for her, so be there for her and give her a great deal of love and support.

Once you have a firm grasp of what is troubling her and she accepts that it wasn’t her fault, then show her the differences between then and now. One of the biggest differences is that if things get too difficult, you can leave, call a time out or use any number of other resources to protect yourself. She could not. She was trapped! It will help her to know about the resources you bring and that you are willing to use them.

There can be other factors at work here, and they are simply too numerous to address here – past life influences, entities and sometimes even ancient curses. I do not mean to oversimplify what can be a complex situation. I have written about some of these issues in my books and I also discuss the process in some detail on the Shamanic Journey CD (see below). If you get lost, have a hard time getting through it on your own, or the situation is overwhelming, find a good shaman.

Copyright © Blue Lotus Press 2011

How to get your oxygen levels up

john woods - transformational breath facilitator

I teach a breathing technique called Transformational Breath (TB). See my website under the “tools” tab or the TB website for more details. The primary goal of the technique is to get more oxygen in the body, for which there are many benefits, that I won’t go into now. However, I had a great reminder of the power of the technique today. I had a call from a friend that had just had his gall bladder taken out. He was laying in a hospital bed a few days ago, with his oxygen level at 80 and the doctors were saying “you aren’t getting out of here until your oxygen levels go up”!  I had facilitated him in the Transformational breathing technique a few times about 4/5 years ago. When he heard this from the doctors, he instantly knew what he had to do. He said to them “I know what to do!” Forty minutes of TB breathing later, his levels were at 100 and they let him out of the hospital shortly there after! It brought a tear to my eye to have shared a tool that helped him in that moment when he was scared and not feeling very well. He said after that experience he has been using the technique daily to help him stay calm and oxygenated.

For me this breathing technique and mediation have been the two most powerful, trans formative tools in my life. If you want a tool that easy to learn for managing stress, giving you more energy, more joy or just overall better health please consider investigating the Transformational Breath technique.

Lake paddle boarding video

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My friend Marcus introduced me to paddle boarding in the ocean a year and half ago and I have loved it ever since. When I”m next to the ocean, I rarely surf any more, as stand up paddle (SUP) board surfing is just so much fun. When there are no waves its still fun

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to paddle around and check out the amazing marine life at your feet. It truly feels like walking on water. Both are fun workouts and keeps me outdoors! I bought a casino francais lake SUP board last summer and now enjoy paddling around the mountain lakes around where I live. I took my friend Elizabeth on a paddle the other day and she shot some video I thought I”d share. If you get the chance to try it, its really fun and easy to learn on a calm day!

 

Working hard versus working smart

I grew up conditioned from my family and my investment profession that made me believe and choose that working hard work was the way to get ahead.  Other messages I heard or experienced was that hard work was honorable and necessary to keep my job.  Advancement and more money only came from hard work. I have to work harder than the person sitting next to me, ect.  I didn’t know any better at the time and fell into some of these patterns.

As I mentioned in the “who am I?” tab in the website, I did have an event that triggered me to wonder where the balance was in working long hours. I then thought working smarter made more sense. I focused on what I really wanted to do and where my skills were best utilized, I then noticed what things that didn’t fit into my plan and eliminated them which lead to me being much more productive. I had a lot of improvement in my balance in life with working “smarter”. With the extra time I had, I added daily practices like mediation and exercise and interestingly, my business actually grew instead of shrinking.

I noticed when I truly looked at what I wanted and not the beliefs or opinions of others I could stay more focused and centered. Conversely, when I forced something to happen I usually was left drained in some way, emotionally, physically or mentally. While I might of had more money in bank account after that forcing, I certainly had less balance in my life. So, keeping myself aligned and centered helped me be more aware of opportunities that in the past would have been obscured by the frantic pace of life at that time. Now, I move with the opportunities and put my attention, focus and energy into the ones I resonate with. Some call it going with the flow, a term that can sometimes bug me, but I do agree it is easier to paddle downstream than up! We all have experienced when things are going smoothly, there is an effortlessness to them.   Things seem to just fall into place or flow easier. Working “easier” seems better to me than working hard.  It was through reprogramming beliefs that no longer served me that allowed this shift to take place..

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