Discovering more from your passion

The Abundance Guy surf video

Surfing for me is one of my passions and a great way for me to have fun, relax and enjoy the ocean. It is also a challenge and its been fun to push my comfort zone at my own pace.  I love the anticipation of riding a wave, the camaraderie of other surfers and, of course, the riding of the wave.  Growing up in the US Midwest there was not much chance to surf, so it wasn’t until I started spending time away from some of the Breckenridge winters that I began to surf.  It has to be one of the hardest sports to learn as there are many different phases to surfing. However, once I glided along my first wave, I was hooked.

It’s also a sport where I’m continually learning and progressing, like life.  It’s a good thing this sport is on water for the number of times I have fallen!  Surfing is definitely one of those sports that has a correlation in life for me in that when I “fall” there is always an opportunity for growth!  My challenging times in life have definitely been where I have learned some of my best lessons, though it sure didn’t feel like it at the time!  Like surfing,  falling with some awareness gives me some information that I can use to adjust or correct for the next wave……I was too far forward on my board, my timing getting on the wave was off, my turn on the wave was too slow, ect. I made this surf video mostly for me to have a record of my surf progress.  However, I thought you might like to see my passion in action and also see that though I have come a long way in the last few years, I’m still falling and getting back up again!

“Everyone shines bright when riding high on the crest of a wave, it’s when things go wrong and we wipe out that we learn the most gaining courage and real strength along the way.”

http://youtu.be/YFNU4nqtux4

 

 

 

How to make Ceviche with your friends

Ceviche picture - abundance guy video

Here is a recipe for a fun and abundant experience…..

1. add two friends to your kitchen one with a knife and one with a camera
2. add a new meal to your life ….change is as good as a holiday they say….
3. add in fresh ingredients that will add micro nutrients to your body, release some of the stress we put on our digestive system and therefore make us feel lighter and freer
4. add fresh air, great view and sunset?? to further make the body feel great!

I think around the world most people seem to end up in and around the kitchen……. I guess, that’s where the food is! However, it also a social gathering place for family and friends. This ceviche recipe on the video is a good one to get people involved in the kitchen as there is a lot of potential chopping help.

Hope you enjoy!

 

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Shifting your perception to create change

Abundance guy - changing your perception

It seems that most people look for the negatives in life or focus or what’s missing. I believe this will keep you stuck or in a “negative” cycle. I believe by shifting to a  focus on the  “positives” you have and being grateful for what you currently have breaks this “negative” cycle and starts creating more abundance. As you are creating more of what you want it is important to keep your thoughts, feelings and actions aligned towards what you want. This can be easier said than done. However, with awareness of what you are thinking, feeling and doing, aligning your thoughts, feeling and actions towards what you want becomes a practice and easier and easier with time.

I can say this is true for myself. I live half the year in Breckenridge, Colorado. Breckenridge is a small town with only a couple of thousand people. Meeting people with my similar life style and beliefs, living here on a part time basis, in the past, has been challenging at times for me. I can sometimes get caught up in negative thinking, “there is no one here like me”, “Breckenridge is too small”, “I’m lonely here”, “I can’t meet new friends”, etc. This can last for a few days sometimes and then I catch myself and apply my own practices. I first can turn around my negative thinking into positive just by saying things like, “it’s easy to meet new friends” or “I’m always in touch (connected) to people”. This can get you going in the right direction. Apply that “fake it until you make it” philosophy if you have a hard time believing your positive statements at first. To me, a belief is just a thought you keep on thinking, so if you have a negative belief you want to change, why not choose to keep on thinking a good one a create a new “better” belief!

Another practice is that I can acknowledge the wonderful friends I already have (even if you only have just one or two, the evidence of one means that others are possible), how they add value to my life, how they are similar to me, etc. This acknowledgement is very important and not meant to be just a one time thought. My belief, is what you focus on expands. So, if I have a practice of daily gratitude of the friends and their wonderful qualities I have NOW, I know that focusing on what I have will grow and my “job” is to let go of the outcome and keep the practice alive. Practicing this, in my experience, I have sometimes had new friends come into my life and sometimes my change has been deepening the friendship I already have with current friends, both of which are great.

Both of these practices work in other parts of life as well. Have a “problem” child? Focus on the aspects of your child you like and watch them grow. Your husband doesn’t compliment you the way you like? Try when you get a compliment, affirming that you really like hearing from him when he likes something and thank him for noticing it. This takes practice, I believe, daily or as frequently you can to change YOUR thinking. Be gentle with yourself, this doesn’t have to be so hard. Make it a game. Start with small steps.

 

 

 

Heading out to relieve stress

Adundance guy - dealing with stress through exercise

Playing out in nature has been apart of my life since I was a child. I was fortunate as a child to have woods out my back yard to roam and play in. From feeling my hands in the dirt to playing make believe, nature was grounding, expansive and full of freedom for me. Many years later, it still is that way now. When my mind get busy, I like to go for a walk or a bike ride outside to clear my head and get some clarity. At times, it just relieves some stress or allows for a bit more clarity on how I am feeling and what i am thinking?

Also, exercising outside is great as there are less distractions. Try leaving the Ipod/i phone at home if you heading out for a walk or jog. Try notice any differences?  Sure is nice “disconnecting” from everyone else sometimes in this “connected” world and just being with me. For me, I can sometimes get too “connected”  with other people and tasks that need done and and I begin to loose my connection to the more important things. Nature is one of my re-connecting zones.

I am fortunate where I live, nature is on my doorstep, so its harder to make excuses to NOT go outside. When I have lived in cities, it can take a bit more effort. Though, sometimes I even will “make” myself take a step outside and just take a few breaths when life is so busy or I’m feeling low in energy.  Just a few breaths outside will release some stress.   Sometimes a few breaths will turn into walking around the block and more stress reduction or a reminder how awesome and beautiful nature is.   A tree, a flower, the sky, the smells, colors, ect. Its all there whether in the city or country.

So take your time to appreciate nature through my eyes, I decided to take you out with me on one of my latest bike rides……just sit back watch and notice how your body reacts or how your breathing pattern changes by just watching this video…..feel better? imagine this was you……your chance……just one thing – go for it!

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Fall colors in Breckenridge – video

Abundance guy aspen fall colors breckenridge

I took this video on my way back home from lunch nearly a month ago. I’m in the heat of Cabo now, so the mountains feel pretty far away right now. However, I really love watching this as it was like a mediation as I was filming it.  Watching the video and seeing the bright Aspens of that fall day and listening to the music is like a short 3 1/2 minute meditation now. A simple mental time out.

The various curves in the road, like thoughts coming and going. We can’t control the curves in the road or our thoughts, though we can learn to control how we react to them. In meditation, the practice of coming back to the present moment after a thought is a normal and some say necessary part of meditation. Of course, a peaceful drive in the country is not always possible, however, use my video for that peaceful drive if you need one. Take a couple of deep breaths and grab the wheel.

 

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You have the power to create

This is a short quote from some of my authors, Ester and Jerry Hicks. They are masters in reminding us that we can create what we want in life through a mix of aligning our thoughts, words and actions towards a desire or goal. This is a lot easier said then done some times if you really pay attention to all your various thoughts, words (what you say) and actions on a subject. We often can contradict ourselves, which I feel makes what we want keep from coming.

We say positive things about a goal or desire, but we think or act in a opposite way. Like the “thought bank account” I describe in an earlier blog, we want to build a “bank account” of pokie online positive thoughts, feelings, speech and actions towards our desires. We can actually practice, seeing, feeling, tasting our desires coming into fruition before they come. I believe this alignment is the key – Fill our positive ” thought bank account” and our desires will come!

“There are no happier people on this planet than those who decide that they want something, define what they want, get hold of the feeling of it even before it”s manifestation and then joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold. That”s the feeling of your hands in the clay.”

— Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in San Francisco, CA on Saturday, August 18th, 2001 # 186

Is mountain biking like life?

A friend of mine came out for a visit last week.  We both enjoyed the “guy time” that two long time friends have together. We have a lot of history together, which started all the way back in nursery school! He has remained one of my closest friends over the years despite 1,000 miles in between us. We work in the same industry so we talk a lot, however we also just make the effort to spend face-to-face time together and be there for each other during the “ups” and “downs” of life.  With busy lives it can be hard to create time together, but so worth the “effort”. We spent a lot of time mountain biking while he was here and the video below is a fast snapshot of our biking time together.

I sometimes think about Mountain biking and it’s similarities to the ups and downs of life. Okay, I know, it maybe a stretch. But give me a little leeway. Biking has the challenge of the climbs, lot’s of effort, sweat and exertion, the time when we literally break down old muscles to build new, stronger ones.  Then the trail inevitably must turn downhill and the often effortless coasting, joy (or relief, after the challenge) and exhilaration. Like in life, our challenges make us stronger and certainly it’s easy to appreciate those times when we take a break from “growing” and life is like a sunny day.

On one ride we took, the uphill was steep enough that we got off and pushed our bikes up. We probably could have pedaled through some of what we walked, but we felt the extra exertion would have drained to much energy for the trail ahead. We dropped our egos and walked and talked.  A good life lesson……….when we might be expending too much energy and draining ourselves too much for the moment to “get off” and catch our breaths, slow things down a bit or build our energy up.  And know that everything that is meant to get done will and the “trail” or life will still be there.

Ross Bishop, one of my favorite authors, talking about “Holding center”

Okay, this is a bit heavy, but there is some good, core stuff to think about in his article.

 

HOLDING CENTER
by Ross Bishop

So you have trouble staying centered. In touchy situations you loose your calm. You get scared, feel anxious and become defensive. You sometimes do and say things you later regret.

Welcome to the world of your wounded inner child. You may think you control your life, but when it comes to emotionally charged situations, that’s her territory, and she rules it completely! The fear you feel is her trying to separate herself from a situation she deems to be threatening.

Your view of the situation really does not matter. She has gone back to a time in childhood when she felt helpless and powerless. At that time she created beliefs, especially about herself,  “we can be hurt,” “angry people are dangerous,” etc., that she carries into the present.  And, as long as she holds those beliefs, she is going to act on them.

The thing to remember is that she has all your power! In one moment she can cause you to react violently, lash out and fly into a rage, or, she can become passive, be dishonest, even con or manipulate in order to “manage” the situation. She’s had a great deal of practice, so she’s probably very good at it! She is not “bad” for doing this, she is simply a scared child trying to survive in a dangerous world.

Something else that she strongly dislikes is that adults rarely put the real issues on the table, so she is constantly forced to deal with shadows. This adds to her anxiety and replays the painfully manipulative adult behavior she had to deal with as a child. One thing about kids, until they become conditioned by us, they say what’s on their minds.

It is also important to remember that you do not come into these situations neutral. Your cup is likely already very full. Whether it is tension in your relationship, work related stress, problems with the kids, issues with your parents, making ends meet, or all the above, you come to the table with a hefty emotional burden. You may feel unsure of yourself, abused, like you don’t fit in or you may be angry at the world, so when a stressful situation arises, your options are already limited.

OK, so a situation happens. What can you do? I am going to give you two solutions, one  short term to deal with the immediate situation, the second, longer term to help resolve your issue. (Note: if the confrontation has become physical, these suggestions will not always apply).

IN THE MOMENT

Dealing with the moment has three basic requirements: Staying Present, Being Grounded and Getting The Focus Off Yourself.

STAYING PRESENT
The greatest barrier to remaining centered is that you are not in the present. Your wounded inner one is reacting to situations that went badly in the past, therefore she is likely to be defensive and feel victimized.

Although you are not powerless, she probably does not know that. She may also fear that you will not use your power to protect her. Saying to yourself:

“This is not the past, and I am not a victim,”

can help a great deal. The other person may be trying to victimize you, and although that did happen when you were a child and powerless, it cannot happen today unless you allow it.

STAYING GROUNDED
Breathe into your feet. This helps ground you and opens up your breathing, which is essential in dealing with stressful situations. This may seem inconsequential, but it is vital!

FOCUS ON THEM
The situation is charged and you are probably anxious, but try to get a sense of what is going on for them. People are often just reacting from fear and they rarely want to address it. No resolution can occur without including them, and anything you can learn about what is really going on will help you.

The operating premise here is that except for a few crackpots, few people seek out conflict. They do want to talk, and they would love a constructive way out, so long as it is safe. Generally we are just too afraid to be that vulnerable. We all have a need to feel understood. Recognizing this can help you constructively respond. Remember also, that apart from the specifics, what every situation needs is more love, because at the core of every “situation” is a lack of love.

THE LONG TERM SOLUTION

The reason you got hooked by the situation is that you feel vulnerable. Actually it is your wounded inner one who is afraid. Otherwise, you would simply engage in a problem solving conversation. But she is afraid and also not convinced that you will be there for her. Recognize that her reaction comes out of her history. You probably don’t like what is happening, but that is only a trigger to bring up old unhealed wounds that are ready to be addressed.

So, when you are away from the situation, at a time of quiet, go inside and find her. You may have to do some fence mending, by the way, because she may not be happy that you have not been there for her in the past.

When you have a good connection with her, get her to show you or tell you about the painful childhood events that the present situation is irritating. Those old painful events formed the beliefs that are driving your present reaction. It doesn’t matter that you may already know where it all came from, hear it from her anyway.

I can guarantee you something about her beliefs: She did nothing to create or be responsible for what happened. She was just a child! These were your parents issues, not hers. They created the difficulty, she did not. But she will have taken at least partial responsibility for what happened. The situation was toxic, she was not, but she will have come to see herself as defective, unlovable, etc., and that is why you are having trouble today.

Show her the truth. Take her back into the original situation and show her what was really going on. Use what you have learned about your parents and the family situation to show her the truth. This may be difficult for her, so be there for her and give her a great deal of love and support.

Once you have a firm grasp of what is troubling her and she accepts that it wasn’t her fault, then show her the differences between then and now. One of the biggest differences is that if things get too difficult, you can leave, call a time out or use any number of other resources to protect yourself. She could not. She was trapped! It will help her to know about the resources you bring and that you are willing to use them.

There can be other factors at work here, and they are simply too numerous to address here – past life influences, entities and sometimes even ancient curses. I do not mean to oversimplify what can be a complex situation. I have written about some of these issues in my books and I also discuss the process in some detail on the Shamanic Journey CD (see below). If you get lost, have a hard time getting through it on your own, or the situation is overwhelming, find a good shaman.

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How to get your oxygen levels up

john woods - transformational breath facilitator

I teach a breathing technique called Transformational Breath (TB). See my website under the “tools” tab or the TB website for more details. The primary goal of the technique is to get more oxygen in the body, for which there are many benefits, that I won’t go into now. However, I had a great reminder of the power of the technique today. I had a call from a friend that had just had his gall bladder taken out. He was laying in a hospital bed a few days ago, with his oxygen level at 80 and the doctors were saying “you aren’t getting out of here until your oxygen levels go up”!  I had facilitated him in the Transformational breathing technique a few times about 4/5 years ago. When he heard this from the doctors, he instantly knew what he had to do. He said to them “I know what to do!” Forty minutes of TB breathing later, his levels were at 100 and they let him out of the hospital shortly there after! It brought a tear to my eye to have shared a tool that helped him in that moment when he was scared and not feeling very well. He said after that experience he has been using the technique daily to help him stay calm and oxygenated.

For me this breathing technique and mediation have been the two most powerful, trans formative tools in my life. If you want a tool that easy to learn for managing stress, giving you more energy, more joy or just overall better health please consider investigating the Transformational Breath technique.