10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Read this article and I thought I’d pass it on. I always like simple thoughts and lists, so I can take a small step in some way by looking at one of the points. For me, I’m going to look at more things around me and smile more today.
10 Things Happy People Do Differently August 20 by Scott Christ

 

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.

-Dalai Lama

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

 

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

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You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others. 

People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

8. Happy people are passionate.

Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

10. Happy people live in the present.

While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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The Happy Secret to Better Work

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I liked this video on happiness that a friend forwarded to me. Don’t know the speaker, but good info given with good humor. My favorite combination! One thing he mentions that I hear over and over again that is of course makes common sense, but I think we can sometimes forget, is that our external world accounts for 10% of our happiness, the “internal” world the majority. All the stuff we have doesn’t bring happiness. So, the “happiness” I feel from the new mountain bike I bought, of course, will eventually fade…….eventually, cause it’s really cool, well, I’m sure it will fade

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from how I feel now, cause I’m pretty happy………Well, at least for sure when winter comes! Saying our internal world is responsible for happiness is really the basis for the book that my buddy and I are writing (yes, it’s coming for those that keep asking). In that, happiness is a choice we can make right NOW. That we don’t have to wait for anything to happen first. My health doesn’t have to get better, my finances don’t have to improve, I don’t have to be in that relationship I want or my partner doesn’t need to be fixed first (unless it’s a guy, cause we need fixing, right ladies!). No happiness don’t have to have a reason….Happiness just is! It here not over “there” somewhere. We just let our mind (ego) get in the way with judgments and comparisons and sometimes get all discombobulated (I can’t believe spell check didn’t get all over me on that one). It is so simple and so empowering when we get that it is a choice, our choice.   http://www.ted.com/talks/shawn_achor_the_happy_secret_to_better_work.html      

Jump out of that rut!

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A friend gave me this book called “How many people does it take to make a difference” and it has a big number one on it. It is a fun collection of sayings and one page stories to get you going and prove that it only takes one person to make change. I found it lying around the other day and opened it to the page that had this message on it.

 

There’s a silent killer that stalks America. It’s called “rustout” and it’s far more deadly and scary the burnout. Sure, burnout can wear down your body, but rustout can wipe out your soul and your spirit.

“Rustout is the slow death that follows when we stop making the choices that keep life alive. It’s the feeling of numbness that comes from always taking the safe way, never accepting new challenges, continually surrendering to the day-to-day routine. Rustout means we are no longer growing, but a best, are simply maintaining. It implies that we have traded the sensation of life for the security of a paycheck….

Rustout is the opposite of burnout. Burnout is overdoing. Rustout is underbeing.

From – Richard Leider and Steve Buchhoz, The Rustout Syndrome

 

Yeah, it’s a bit ra, ra and sometimes the best we can do in any given moment is our “routines”. Though, I’m taking this as a message to mix it up a bit, I’m the one that opened the book to this page!

Sometimes, we feel change has to be so huge that it scares us into not doing anything. For me, I’m going to say yes just once when I normally would say no or just walking to get the paper in a different way. Small steps!

 

Conscious Consumer – a few simple ideas

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I often write about ideas and thoughts on how we can do things to become more in balance as individuals. Of course, we also live in a world that operates in a balance as well. This balance can sometimes precarious. We are certainly hearing a lot about this today.

I feel that sometimes I really don’t have very much power over something as big as “helping” the world become more in balance. For me, having more “power” started with more awareness in my choices. For example, my friend Kasey, who worked at a recycling center and encourage me to take my recycling to the center back in the late 90’s. I still do this today despite no convenient pick up in the towns I live in. As I saw what the center was recycling, I added a bin or two and filled up the car more. So, Thanks Kasey!

Here is another pretty easy one that I did on my own five or six years ago. I bought a water filter and a water bottle and now I have better water from my facet than buying that over priced bottled water in a plastic container. Some estimate we throw away 50 to 100 million plastic bottles a day! Common sense says that’s a balance that can’t be sustained. Here is a link if you want more info on the impacts of bottled water http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2011/01/15/dangers-of-drinking-water-from-a-plastic-bottle.aspx.

About two years ago, I hired an energy consultant, Elizabeth Plumb, to help me improve the energy efficiency of my home in Breckenridge. I learned a lot about new and different choices I could make in being a more conscious consumer. With her guidance, I now feel like I have made steps improving my choices when I consume things. From “smaller” things like when I have a choice in buying a product, buying the one with less packaging or in the example of how I buy pineapple. I would often buy the pineapple already cut in a plastic container. Now I buy the whole pineapple and I just have to have a bit more patience to wait for it to ripen. Passing on those yummy looking berries from Chile in the middle of the winter as the reason their so expensive is how far they had to travel to get to the market. So, I just buy organic frozen from the states. Again, not a perfect choice, but a better one. Elizabeth also guided me to make an investment into my house through things like more insulation, more efficient household appliances, new hot water heater and a solar system. I cut my gas and electric bills more than half! And a lot of those savings were a bunch of small things, with modest costs. Thanks, Elizabeth!

I may not directly see the world changing as I consume less resources, but I feel better that I am making a small impact. Of course, that’s how we all can make a difference together. If we all can make just one new or different choice we can make a huge impact in the world being more in balance. If you have the time, read the below article from Ross Bishop (an author who helped shaped my thinking on abundance) and review his ideas on being more a more conscious consumer. There can be a lot of guilt attached to this issue, which for me, is not the best motivator. I prefer to move from a new awareness and then a new choice. Focusing on the positive changes I have made and being open to new ideas. So, is there one new choice you could make, even part of one? Can any of you make any simple suggestions?

ARE YOU PROBLEM OR SOLUTION?

By Ross Bishop

There are many problems today – the soft economy, the housing market, global warming, ineffectual schools, the political system, uncaring corporations, Wall Street corruption, natural disasters and European economic collapse. So what can you do? You can’t change the world, right?

Not quite.

You, your friends and neighbors have enormous power, but until you collectively use it, you defer that power and to the special interests who are only too happy to take it. You would be amazed at what can happen when a number of us make changes in our everyday choices.

We live in a world of incredible convenience, but every convenience comes at a significant price, whether it’s energy consumption, refuse in landfills, downstream chemical pollution or adding to global warming.

Today your choices encourage marketers to continue creating “convenience products” to serve your desire to have an easy life. And so long as you are willing to pay the cost for not being “inconvenienced,” the corporations have no incentive to change.

And that’s the problem: being a responsible consumer is inconvenient. It is easy to throw your laundry in the drier rather than hanging it outside. Scratch cooking takes time and planning. Microwave foods are convenient. Recycling is a hassle. Buying at the Farmer’s Market is expensive and it means an extra shopping trip. Bringing your own shopping bags is a nuisance. Eating organic is expensive. Eating meat is the American way. Buying sweatshop made products at WalMart saves money. Saving energy means the house won’t be as comfortable.

No one is asking you to carry water in a bucket, use an outhouse or churn your own butter, but many of our convenience choices have a significant impact on the planet and really don’t provide all that much in return. Your life would actually improve if you dumped some of them.

The problem with conveniences is that each individual thing may seem small but in the aggregate, the impacts can be devastating. Tossing a plastic bottle in the garbage is not a big deal, but 35 billion plastic bottles in landfills each year creates an enormous environmental problem. Consider just a few other examples: If every household in America replaced just ONE BOX of 175-count facial tissue with a 100% recycled product, we would save 385,000 trees, 140 million gallons of water and almost a million cubic feet of landfill space.

If every household substituted just ONE BOX of petroleum-based laundry detergent with a plant-derived detergent, we would save 165,000 barrels of oil (that’s almost 7 million gallons). That is enough to heat and cool 9,500 homes for a year! Plus there would be an immense reduction in the need for wastewater treatment! That’s for one box of detergent! The average family goes through a dozen or more of those in a year.

You would see a real impact if you eased up on your consumption of meat. Producing meat is an incredible resource hog. The biggest single contributor to global warming (20% of the total) is from the meat industry. Raising animals for food requires more than one-third of all raw materials and fossil fuels used in the United States. More than half of the U.S. water supply goes to livestock production. It takes 3,000 to 5,000 gallons of water and 15 pounds of grain to produce one pound of beef. That’s the monthly water use for a family of four, and fifteen pounds of grain would feed your entire neighborhood!

Doing something about these excesses requires making sacrifices, and frankly, we’re not very good at that. Our grandparents did that sort of thing. . . But without asking you to turn into an eco-freak, there are some fairly simple things that everyone can (and should) be doing:

THINGS WE ALL SHOULD DO

1. Hang out your laundry. It smells better, is better for the clothes, the environment and it saves a lot of energy. Your clothes dryer is a huge energy hog.

2. Eat meatless one day a week. It is much healthier, and the benefit to the planet would simply be incredible!

3. Recycle. It is mind boggling how much reusable trash gets thrown into landfills every day! 35 billion recyclable plastic bottles each year, 100 billion plastic bags, 2% of which are ever recycled. One thousand miles off the coast of California and New York are islands of floating plastic, each twice as large as the state of Texas, fouling the water and killing wildlife.

Consider this: every piece of plastic that has ever been made sits somewhere in a landfill. The stuff does not degrade! Very little of it can be recycled and very little of what can be reused ever is.

4. Use Eco-friendly cleaners, laundry detergent, dish soap, recycled paper products, etc. They may be more expensive, but this is the sort of sacrifice we all need to make in order to reduce the burden of chemical toxicity and deforestation on the planet.

5. Use your own shopping bags. Europeans have done this for years to no discernible detriment.

6. Eat organic as much as you can afford. It’s much better for your health and is enormously better for the planet. If I could show you the terrible nutritional content of the fresh produce you buy from the store, you probably would not believe me. Modern factory agriculture is not your friend.

7. Plant a garden! It’s one of the healthiest things you can do for your family, it’s great exercise, it’s fabulous for the planet and it will save you a lot of money!

8. Save vegetable kitchen scraps (freeze them) for soup stock, or bury them in the garden instead of tossing them in the garbage. It reduces the burden on landfills and is good for the soil.

9. Shop at your local Farmer’s Market. It’s more nutritious, reduces industrial transportation and supports the local economy. Yes, it’s more expensive, but consider it an investment in your family’s health.

10. When you shop, try to buy whole unprocessed food. Yes, it means more cooking and planning time. Avoid buying processed food whenever possible. Especially avoid: processed meat, hydrogenated oils, GMO products, artificial sweeteners, benzoate preservatives, high fructose corn syrup (sodas, fruit juice, etc.), Olestra and any ingredient you cannot pronounce or that your grandmother would not recognize.

11. Be careful of franchise restaurant food and restaurants that serve factory made, pre-prepared entrees. Most of it is loaded with chemicals and preservatives. There are a few franchise exceptions like Noodles & Company, Chipotle, Cosi, Panera and Au Bon Pain. Some franchises are starting to offer healthier choices. If possible, eat at locally owned restaurants that use healthy local ingredients and cook from scratch. Those who do this will be proud to tell you if you ask.

12. Become a more responsible consumer. Take a little time and learn about the products you buy and the companies who produce them. Is your coffee or chocolate produced under slave-like conditions? Was your cell phone or running shoes made in a sweat-shop? What about your jeans? Now that I know more about them, I feel better about buying things from companies like Burt’s Bees, Newman’s Own, Kashi, Ben & Jerry’s and TOMS shoes, etc. A couple of these have been bought by large corporations, but have kept their integrity intact.

There are a number of web sites that rank companies on their social consciousness. Some even have cell phone apps that allow you to scan bar codes and learn about your prospective purchases. The Ethical Consumer (http://www.ethicalconsumer.org/) is great publication for the UK, but I have not found anything similar here in the states. Web sites I have used are: http://www.free2work.org/ mobile app, www.chainstorereaction.com, www.shoptostopslavery.com and
http://www.betterworldshopper.org/rankings.html.

There is more you can do if you want to take these ideas further. The web is a great source of information.

Shifting your perception to create change

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It seems that most people look for the negatives in life or focus or what’s missing. I believe this will keep you stuck or in a “negative” cycle. I believe by shifting to a  focus on the  “positives” you have and being grateful for what you currently have breaks this “negative” cycle and starts creating more abundance. As you are creating more of what you want it is important to keep your thoughts, feelings and actions aligned towards what you want. This can be easier said than done. However, with awareness of what you are thinking, feeling and doing, aligning your thoughts, feeling and actions towards what you want becomes a practice and easier and easier with time.

I can say this is true for myself. I live half the year in Breckenridge, Colorado. Breckenridge is a small town with only a couple of thousand people. Meeting people with my similar life style and beliefs, living here on a part time basis, in the past, has been challenging at times for me. I can sometimes get caught up in negative thinking, “there is no one here like me”, “Breckenridge is too small”, “I’m lonely here”, “I can’t meet new friends”, etc. This can last for a few days sometimes and then I catch myself and apply my own practices. I first can turn around my negative thinking into positive just by saying things like, “it’s easy to meet new friends” or “I’m always in touch (connected) to people”. This can get you going in the right direction. Apply that “fake it until you make it” philosophy if you have a hard time believing your positive statements at first. To me, a belief is just a thought you keep on thinking, so if you have a negative belief you want to change, why not choose to keep on thinking a good one a create a new “better” belief!

Another practice is that I can acknowledge the wonderful friends I already have (even if you only have just one or two, the evidence of one means that others are possible), how they add value to my life, how they are similar to me, etc. This acknowledgement is very important and not meant to be just a one time thought. My belief, is what you focus on expands. So, if I have a practice of daily gratitude of the friends and their wonderful qualities I have NOW, I know that focusing on what I have will grow and my “job” is to let go of the outcome and keep the practice alive. Practicing this, in my experience, I have sometimes had new friends come into my life and sometimes my change has been deepening the friendship I already have with current friends, both of which are great.

Both of these practices work in other parts of life as well. Have a “problem” child? Focus on the aspects of your child you like and watch them grow. Your husband doesn’t compliment you the way you like? Try when you get a compliment, affirming that you really like hearing from him when he likes something and thank him for noticing it. This takes practice, I believe, daily or as frequently you can to change YOUR thinking. Be gentle with yourself, this doesn’t have to be so hard. Make it a game. Start with small steps.

 

 

 

Working hard versus working smart

I grew up conditioned from my family and my investment profession that made me believe and choose that working hard work was the way to get ahead.  Other messages I heard or experienced was that hard work was honorable and necessary to keep my job.  Advancement and more money only came from hard work. I have to work harder than the person sitting next to me, ect.  I didn’t know any better at the time and fell into some of these patterns.

As I mentioned in the “who am I?” tab in the website, I did have an event that triggered me to wonder where the balance was in working long hours. I then thought working smarter made more sense. I focused on what I really wanted to do and where my skills were best utilized, I then noticed what things that didn’t fit into my plan and eliminated them which lead to me being much more productive. I had a lot of improvement in my balance in life with working “smarter”. With the extra time I had, I added daily practices like mediation and exercise and interestingly, my business actually grew instead of shrinking.

I noticed when I truly looked at what I wanted and not the beliefs or opinions of others I could stay more focused and centered. Conversely, when I forced something to happen I usually was left drained in some way, emotionally, physically or mentally. While I might of had more money in bank account after that forcing, I certainly had less balance in my life. So, keeping myself aligned and centered helped me be more aware of opportunities that in the past would have been obscured by the frantic pace of life at that time. Now, I move with the opportunities and put my attention, focus and energy into the ones I resonate with. Some call it going with the flow, a term that can sometimes bug me, but I do agree it is easier to paddle downstream than up! We all have experienced when things are going smoothly, there is an effortlessness to them.   Things seem to just fall into place or flow easier. Working “easier” seems better to me than working hard.  It was through reprogramming beliefs that no longer served me that allowed this shift to take place..

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