An exercise in abundance

Draw a circle. List all the areas or aspects of your life. Makes these pieces of the pie or like spokes on a wheel of your circle. Things like, finance, health, romance, family, work, ect.

I like to call this your abundance wheel. Now rate these from 1(lowest) to 10 (highest) on how complete or abundant you feel in that particular area. Want to work in an area of your life? This is an easy way to see where you are today. Choose one area and decide to do something today NO MATTER HOW SMALL to moving forward in that area. If you want more friends, call the ones you have, look in the paper/online/message board somewhere for groups you could join that have your interest. Remember, JUST looking counts. If that’s too big of a step (usually you will know if it is, because you can’t seem to do it), break it down into smaller ones. How about just say to yourself, ” I want to have more friends” or write that down and say it everyday for a week or a month. Then, do the next step towards that goal.

My dad often said, “The definition of insanity it doing the same thing over an over again an expecting a different result”. Good advice. Adding to that advice, is take SMALL STEPS towards change. Moving from a 2 in health to a 10 is so scary and new that we often can’t seem to create change. We often are stuck in ways of being and it gets so big to move at all. This is where the small steps come in. You can not lose 30 pounds in one night. Some steps and different habits are needed. Be gentle with yourself as you try new habits and allow them to take hold slowly……. How about a goal of loosing one pound a month? Break that down, how do I do that? Eat a pint of ice cream every night before bed? How about eating one bite less each day for a month? How about not beating yourself up eating that pint of Ben & Jerry’s and actually allow yourself to enjoy it before, during and AFTER you eat it? Couch potato? How about standing up during one commercial and walking in place to begin some exercise and go from there.

Today, I’m working on creativity. SO, I’m taking out the paints (I love to paint with my fingers) that are dusty in the closet and I’m going to paint something. I do not care what I paint, what it looks like, as long as I can keep my ego in check:) I’ll focus on the feeling of the paint on my fingers, what the canvas feels like, what the colors look like. That will be my small step towards feeling more creativity in my life!

Here is to making our “abundance wheels” roll a little bit smoother!

True power is not about force or control…

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” Most rarely align with their true power, because it seems illogical to them that there is power in relaxation, in letting go, or in love or joy or bliss. Most people do not understand that their true power lies in releasing resistance—which is the only obstacle to their true power.

Most people do not expect their path to great abundance to be one of ease and of joy. They have been taught that struggle and hardship and sacrifice are requirements that must be met before the reward of great abundance can be realized. Most do not understand that the very struggle they deliberately involve themselves in, in their quest for success and advantage, actually works against them.

There are so many things that you have been taught to believe that are counter to the powerful Laws of the Universe that it is difficult for you to think your way out. And that is the reason that we present this path of much less resistance.

We want you to breathe rather than try, to relax rather than offer effort, to smile rather than struggle, to be rather than do. For your true power is experienced only from inside.” Jerry and Esther Hicks

I have experienced this first hand, when I push or force things to happen, I find it hard, difficult or a struggle as they stated in the quote above. The amazing thing was when I actually tried the other way by connecting deeper with myself and letting go of trying to control things or people around me to see it my way, I realized it was much easier and everything I needed was there…

For example, have you ever had the experience when you want something that when you let go of the outcome, you often get it? Think of a business situation or personal relationship where this has been true for you – remember that sale you really let go of and you got it or that relationship where you were true to yourself first and then it worked out for the best. This is the power of aligning with your inner understanding rather than being effected by the events or situation outside of you.

 

Just ask

Asking for what I want is one of my favorite things in conversations I have learned to do more of. Wasn’t really easy at first, for a somewhat shy Midwestern boy, but I practiced and now I’m occasionally asking for some pretty big things. Things I would have never asked in the past. I still feel uncomfortable in certain situations, however, it just feels so much better to be honest with my feelings, intentions and desires. It’s so easy to fall in the trap of hoping the person your wanting something from is going to read your mind. Gosh, if you have been in a relationship long enough, you are supposed to be able to do that, right? Likely, that thinking will lead to disappointment and frustration as I haven’t met many mind readers that get it 100% right out there.

Of course, this doesn’t let us off the hook for being aware of the feelings the people in our relationships are giving off and “helping” them out now and then by checking in with their needs. But, be careful there, if you do this too much, then your trying to read the person so much it circles back to trying to figure out what they want. Though most of us likely don’t do this consciously, we often use some kind of manipulation to TRY to get want you want. If I do this, then can you do this or that for me? Or we go through some elaborate strategy or emotional drama to “guilt” someone into doing what we want. Hey, we have all done it. My view is let’s just clean it up with some honesty and trust that WE will be okay no matter what the outcome of our “asking” is.

Also, this doesn’t mean we always get a yes when we ask for what we want. We can still have some disappointment or frustration to work through, however, with your clear communication, it often leads to greater opportunities to talk about those things that are important to you or maybe work out a “yes” sometime in the future.

 

Being thankful leads to happiness

Well, I’m getting caught up on some of my emails and videos that we all seem to get around holiday time and wanted to share one. If you have 14 minutes there are some nice messages in here on the concept I guess we all know that gratefulness leads to happiness, not the other way around. I just think I/we forget that a lot of the time.

For the A.D.D. crowd, go to about 8 minutes in as David kinda sums up a nice grateful practice. I really like part of that where he describes we would all be more grateful if we installed stop signs in our life’s to be more present.

Enjoy!

 

http://www.ted.com/talks/david_steindl_rast_want_to_be_happy_be_grateful.html

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Read this article and I thought I’d pass it on. I always like simple thoughts and lists, so I can take a small step in some way by looking at one of the points. For me, I’m going to look at more things around me and smile more today.
10 Things Happy People Do Differently August 20 by Scott Christ

 

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.

-Dalai Lama

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

 

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

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You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

happiness surrounding

One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others. 

People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

8. Happy people are passionate.

Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

10. Happy people live in the present.

While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

Experiment in fun…..

My last blog I wrote about working smart and aligning your thoughts towards feeling good versus working hard and struggling.

Wannta try an experiment for a month, a week or heck even a day? Try reducing your workload by 30% and increase your fun by 30%. Your rational mind will come up with ways you can’t and shouldn’t BUT, YOU CAN and SHOULD! I just takes some creativity to look at things a bit differently. On the other side, I think what you will find is more energy, more aliveness and, of course, more fun for YOU. I’ll add, which YOU deserve, as in FUN, not tomorrow, next week when this is done or that is done, NOW. Man, am I screaming with all these capital words? I believe if you practice your own variation of this idea over a period you will also find your productivity will go up and so will your income.

Hummm, less work, more fun, more abundance!!!

 

Goofy humor

I”m not sure why I love these goofy jokes

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so much, but I just do. I feel like I”m 8 years old laughing at these jokes sometimes. I mean, I know a guy who is addicted to brake fluid. He says he online roulette can stop at any time. This is funny stuff to me……..I”m reading this great book on gravity. I can”t put it down. This is definitely corny and dry, okay very dusty at best, sense of humor, right?. Anyway, hope a couple make you giggle and laugh (Thanks, Line!)

 

Do you like what you do?

Seems like I have been talking to a lot of people these days who are wanting to make a change in their life’s. Lately, its been in their work situation. They seem to know they want to do something that is deeper, adds more value to others, is simpler or just is more satisfying.

 

I understand this. I have been in the investment business for about 30 years and though I enjoy helping people save for college, to buy a home or retirement, these activities usually take many, many years. So, seeing my success or satisfaction in helping others, in the end, can take decades sometimes. What I love about the Abundance Guy business, that I have been involved in in its different forms over the last 9 or 10 years has been that I find much more satisfaction and it happens faster. Sometimes individuals I work with, have dramatic shifts in their outlook on life, their abundance or their happiness in a very short period of time, sometimes in an hour! This is awesome! At the same time, I wouldn’t change my past, even if I could, as the money business taught me about how to help people with their relationship to money. Thirty years of being around people and watching their ways of being around money I feel like I have earned my psychology degree a few times over!

Well, this transition into a new area of work has been a process for me. Actually, one small step at a time. About 10 years ago I read a couple of books that got me thinking and stimulated this passion for this work I didn’t realize I had and it has been one step at a time ever since. I’m still tweaking this. I have a new goal now that I made a three year plan for and I’m breaking that bigger plan into smaller parts and then smaller parts and smaller parts and so on until I can actually do something…….anything that moves me towards that goal. When I go through this process with others, really ANY small step is progress. I think we all at times, just want to get to our goals NOW, but I have found it just doesn’t normally work that way. Certainly, that patience necessary has felt frustrating to me and others at times. Shifting the frustration to action has helped me. I ask others, “what is one small step you can do today, right now, to move towards your desires?” Sometimes, it is a simple as starting a file to put all your thoughts into, writing a sentence or two a day on what you want. I had a woman recently just commit to her desire in one moment as we were talking and things just seemed to fall in place for her naturally from then on. She didn’t need the more analytical “planning” way that works for me sometimes. She also put aside, as much as she could, her negative talk to herself that she couldn’t, shouldn’t do, ask for or have her desire. That is HUGE! We all know we can beat ourselves up way more than anyone else can.

So, I’ll ask of you if you have a burning desire for something. What small step can you do now towards the desire or goal. If you need some help, give me a call, that’s what I do. However, I feel each of you have the answers to what your desires are and how to move towards them if you can get your own thinking (or over thinking) out of the way. My dad often said that the definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I think that was and is sound advise. What small step or small change can you do now?

 

Jump out of that rut!

Abundance guy - stuck in a rut

A friend gave me this book called “How many people does it take to make a difference” and it has a big number one on it. It is a fun collection of sayings and one page stories to get you going and prove that it only takes one person to make change. I found it lying around the other day and opened it to the page that had this message on it.

 

There’s a silent killer that stalks America. It’s called “rustout” and it’s far more deadly and scary the burnout. Sure, burnout can wear down your body, but rustout can wipe out your soul and your spirit.

“Rustout is the slow death that follows when we stop making the choices that keep life alive. It’s the feeling of numbness that comes from always taking the safe way, never accepting new challenges, continually surrendering to the day-to-day routine. Rustout means we are no longer growing, but a best, are simply maintaining. It implies that we have traded the sensation of life for the security of a paycheck….

Rustout is the opposite of burnout. Burnout is overdoing. Rustout is underbeing.

From – Richard Leider and Steve Buchhoz, The Rustout Syndrome

 

Yeah, it’s a bit ra, ra and sometimes the best we can do in any given moment is our “routines”. Though, I’m taking this as a message to mix it up a bit, I’m the one that opened the book to this page!

Sometimes, we feel change has to be so huge that it scares us into not doing anything. For me, I’m going to say yes just once when I normally would say no or just walking to get the paper in a different way. Small steps!

 

Choose Happiness

happiness is your choice - the abundance guy

My friend Steve and I are writing a book on happiness. The idea blossomed out of our frequent conversations about each others life’s and wanting to share some of the lessons we have had and are still learning. The bottom line of the book is that each of us can choose our own happiness. Think about that for a second…..you can choose your own happiness! I think that statement alone some people can get stuck on. There is usually a huge list of things that “need” to be done (if only’s) before happiness comes. If only, I had more money, I could do this or that. If only, my partner would do this or that. If only, my kids were better at or more like this or that. If only, people would appreciate me for this or that. If only, I met somebody, lost so many pounds, had a better job, had more friends, could exercise more, my family would listen to me, ect, ect, ect…….THEN, I’d be happy. Any of you, like me, had any of these thoughts play over and over in your head at times? We sure are tough on ourselves!

Then” is not now and with some people’s “if only’s”, happiness may never come. Of course, a lot of our “if only’s” can not be controlled by us. This is madness, because we are then waiting for someone else to do something before we are happy. Sound familiar? Sound crazy when you really think about it? What if that other person does not want to do what we want no matter what we try (and we try a lot)? It’s easy to feel powerless and depressed in this scenario.

 

We have found that taking the small step of just deciding that we want to be happy can start an amazing change. Our belief is we do NOT have to wait for any of our mental lists we have going for ourselves to be complete. We can choose, right now, to be and feel happier. We are in control of this, not someone else.

My dad said to me often, that “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result”. I feel that is true, as deciding and choosing to be happy involves thinking newly to the situations you have in the past given your power away. I could write a whole book on this topic (couldn’t resist), but how about try being yourself and worrying about what others think.  If you can master that one alone, your world will change. How about slowing down by taking a couple deep breaths before you respond in charged situations or if you find yourself getting caught up in negative thinking. Practice small steps…….Can you find what’s working in your life now? Can you find some acceptance of yourself? Can you find some beauty in the world around you? Some joy? Can you turn a frown into a smile? Can you just be in the present and not fight what is?

That is my practice and I do mean practice as I get knocked out of happiness all the time. I’m getting better and I catch myself quicker than in the past and from falling from higher “levels” of happiness. So, if your happiness meter is a bit low today, it’s your choice to keep it there or move it higher!

happiness makes you feel alive - abundance guy