You are what you think

Byron Katie’s work, what she calls “inquiry”, has been one of my favorite tools for questioning my thoughts or another way to look at it is questioning my beliefs. I really think her work and the general work of questioning your thoughts is priceless for greater freedom from our minds that think all sorts of crazy things. We certainly can’t control what we think, but we have the choice to believe them or not.  Some of her quotes below give a lit insight into her philosophy. Check out her u tube talks if your interested or go to

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”

“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.”

“Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be caused by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That’s not a possibility. It’s only when I believe a stressful thought that I get hurt. And I’m the one who’s hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it means that I don’t have to get someone else to stop hurting me. I’m the one who can stop hurting me. It’s within my power.

What we are doing with inquiry is meeting our thoughts with some simple understanding, finally. Pain, anger, and frustration will let us know when it’s time to inquire. We either believe what we think or we question it: there’s no other choice. Questioning our thoughts is the kinder way. Inquiry always leaves us as more loving human beings.”

Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life