Quote

It’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking, than it is to think your way into a new way of acting.

Founder habit of humanity

 

Negative emotions

“Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.”

Gretchen Rubin

An interesting take that maybe some have you heard. I guess the common thing for many of us to do when those “negative” emotions comes up is to get out of the uncomfortable emotions as fast as we can. I know I’m good at that sometimes by stuffing, deflecting, blaming others or distract myself in one way or another.

One practice when I can think of it, is I try to fully feel the emotion coming up, kinda just being with it for a bit if I can. Get an awareness first.  Then, I’ll sometimes see if there is a particular place in my body I feel the emotion. A tool I use is to take a couple of deep breaths into the area or if I can’t feel a specific place, just take a few deep breaths, maybe for a minute or so. Sometimes this can at least slow or lessen the emotion. Sometimes I might just “feel it” for a number of minutes, not trying to change it or make it go away (not so easy all the time).

A next step could be to check if this is a more frequent emotion you have been feeling and the hard part…….is there something I’m doing in my life I could look at doing differently? I often think some belief I have is being “challenged” so to speak. Challenged by who? or is it whom? My best guess is its our inner self, whatever that is, maybe something a bit more unconscious than conscious. Now, we getting in murky waters, but my thoughts agree with the quote above a message is likely in that emotion somewhere. Can you get a sense you have when feel/think about the emotion during or more likely when the emotion is not as present what that emotion maybe saying? Just try asking yourself and see what you get.

For example, If you’re feeling envy or lack in some way a lot, can you look at the envy and see why your having it. I desire this or that and I never get it or why does she have this or that and not me? We all do that at times and we know comparing can cause a lot of stress and its all self imposed stress likely based on some belief we have that we more than what we actually have in this moment is better.  Although you might need some help peeling through the layers sometimes, one idea could be to do a practice of being grateful for what you have now or even more challenging, being grateful for what that snooty neighbor has. Of course, you can’t change what you have in that particular moment and  there is always something to be grateful for and that looking can often lessen, even if a little bit, those feelings of envy.

 

Take a step

From the Daily Stoic website:

 

Ideas are a dime a dozen. Action is what counts. Especially when it comes to improving yourself and your character.

You could spend the rest of your life reading books to improve yourself—and be stuck in the same place. Why do you think that is? Why do you have friends who seem to know every name of every book that’s designed to change us overnight…but their lives always seem to be in shambles?

It’s simple: They don’t do anything with the knowledge they have. There’s an urgency to acquire more information and facts, but no similar urgency about actually getting something done.

This matters even more when the “project” is your character. Marcus Aurelius put it like this: “Get busy with life’s purpose, toss aside empty hopes, get active in your own rescue—if you care for yourself at all—and do it while you can.”

That’s a good way of thinking about this: You’re rescuing yourself. You’re saving your soul and your life and your character. But that’s only going to happen if you take action.

So what are you waiting for?

Mindfulness

My sister passed this article from a teachers website of good reminders to me and thought I’d pass it on. I thought it was an interesting idea when our minds get focused on fear and uncertainty in the future to focus on five things outside of you and try to look at them as “newly” as possible. I tried it and it for me was a kinda of reset. It may not necessarily make the issue go away, but the goal is to feel a little bit better or lighter.  Our minds are really powerful about spinning their stories of fear and worry sometimes, so any little tricks to help us not get to attached to our thoughts the better!

Thanks, Cathy.

 

Mindfulness
Much of the distress in our lives comes from anticipating negative or dangerous events that might happen in the future and as a result failing to be in the present moment in which those events are not happening.  Such worry not only undermines an accurate assessment and preparation for what might go wrong as well as undermining the enjoyment of life as it is in the present moment.

Mindfulness is a natural human capacity to pay attention to our experience as it is happening in real time. When we intentionally cultivate this capacity through practice we enhance our ability to focus, to regulate our emotions and to extend compassion and kindness to ourselves and others.  When we infuse mindfulness throughout our day we not only reduce our stress and worry, finding better ways to respond to the challenges of life, but we also expand our capacity for joy and wonder.

During non-teaching times throughout the day, instead of checking your phone and email between classes or during lunch or an off period, try taking a mindfulness break using one of these simple strategies:

  • Notice five specific things out your window – clouds, students, a kite, birds, cars –and try to see them with fresh eyes and without telling yourself a story about them.
  • Take three deep, long breaths inhaling in through the nose and out the mouth to help reduce stress hormones in your body.
  • Eat a snack slowly, keeping all your attention on just relaxing and eating.
  • If you have a favorite quote, poem or a piece of writing, take a few moments to re-read it to refresh your sense of inspiration and connection to what’s important now.
  • Take a “five senses” walk outside. Notice what you see, hear, smell, taste and feel. This sensory awareness will help you return to the present moment.

Remember: This Is Not Your Problem

This is from the Daily Stoic.  Always a good reminder…

 

“The affliction of so many people? Other people. We’re driven mad by the mistakes, the comments, the rudeness, the lifestyle choices of people who are not us.
We have to be able to remind ourselves: My problems are my problems, other people’s problems are their problems. As Marcus wrote, “Leave other people’s mistakes where they lie.” That is, in their own bed.

You’ve got plenty to deal with on your own today. Don’t waste a second judging other people, or gossiping about them, or getting involved in their business. It’s not your problem.”

Thank You – do you take it in?

Receiving thank you is an abundant practice

The definition of thank you is “an acknowledgement of appreciation or expression of gratitude”.

It is important that we are open to hearing and feeling appreciation and gratitude coming to us.

When someone thanks you for something, how do you respond? Do you say “your welcome” or do you have a hard time hearing it? Maybe you deflect the “thank you” by saying something like, “oh, it was nothing” or “you would have done the same for me”, ect. In my abundance work, I often find many people are better at giving than they are at receiving. There are a number reasons for this, however, I believe for us to receive more abundance, in whatever area in life we want, we actually have to be open to and good at receiving! If we can’t receive a simple “thank you”, how are we to “receive” more of other things? Like stepping on a hose that limits the water flow.

So, a practice could be to FULLY take in a “thank you” before responding at all, maybe just for a second, and “feel” the “thank you” and then respond with “your welcome” or in some manner that you acknowledge the appreciation coming your way. I feel when you do this you are acknowledging your gift to that person and receiving their appreciation at the same time. This balance opens the door to more abundance.

Internet news

We live in an interesting world these days when it comes to news and the internet. There is SO much available these days that its hard to sift through all of it first off and then no what is real and what is fake. I’m pretty out of the news loop living out of the country a good portion of the year and not having regular TV and I kinda like it that way. I think I’m a bit freer mentally that I don’t follow what the latest Trump statement of fact, fiction or expression of ego or what others have to say about those.  I’ll take more peace over more information any day.

I just watched a TED talk on the Russian  hack of the US election. Now, I do not watch enough news to know if this is a fact or not and I’m not sure why the heck I choose to watch it, however, what the possibility brings to light is now we can have very sophisticated COUNTRY’S disseminating fake news to the social media streams in a way to directly impact an outcome that they want! In a way that doesn’t seem fake and appeals to us individually or as a group. The speaker of the TED talk, Laura Galante, goes onto suggest that this is Russia trying to stir the pot in the US to get us to question democracy! Wow, if true, add that to the Facebook crowd that is trying to keep us on our devices more and more to keep their add revenue stream growing and it’s amazing we are not a bunch of zombies walking with our heads down on the way to the nearest communist headquarters sign up place. Anyway, I guess I’ll continue to be aware where my news is coming from and look for the people that actually have their faces up in the world rather than lost in space (facebook)!

 

 

 

 

True power is not about force or control…

Abundance guy - True power electricity hitting water

” Most rarely align with their true power, because it seems illogical to them that there is power in relaxation, in letting go, or in love or joy or bliss. Most people do not understand that their true power lies in releasing resistance—which is the only obstacle to their true power.

Most people do not expect their path to great abundance to be one of ease and of joy. They have been taught that struggle and hardship and sacrifice are requirements that must be met before the reward of great abundance can be realized. Most do not understand that the very struggle they deliberately involve themselves in, in their quest for success and advantage, actually works against them.

There are so many things that you have been taught to believe that are counter to the powerful Laws of the Universe that it is difficult for you to think your way out. And that is the reason that we present this path of much less resistance.

We want you to breathe rather than try, to relax rather than offer effort, to smile rather than struggle, to be rather than do. For your true power is experienced only from inside.” Jerry and Esther Hicks

I have experienced this first hand, when I push or force things to happen, I find it hard, difficult or a struggle as they stated in the quote above. The amazing thing was when I actually tried the other way by connecting deeper with myself and letting go of trying to control things or people around me to see it my way, I realized it was much easier and everything I needed was there…

For example, have you ever had the experience when you want something that when you let go of the outcome, you often get it? Think of a business situation or personal relationship where this has been true for you – remember that sale you really let go of and you got it or that relationship where you were true to yourself first and then it worked out for the best. This is the power of aligning with your inner understanding rather than being effected by the events or situation outside of you.